Unit 0 · Skill 0.03 — The particles never change size. Watch what actually changes: the spacing and the motion.
The particle diameter never changes, no matter what you do. Neither does the number of particles or the total mass. Watch the gap and the speed instead.
Sloped parts: energy makes particles move faster, so the temperature rises. Flat parts: energy is pulling particles apart, so the temperature holds still until the phase change is finished.
Notice the total never changes. Energy moved; none was made or destroyed. If the cold object is bigger, the final temperature lands closer to the cold one — more particles to share the energy with.